A quick woman's guide to hotting up the relationship. NOT FOR MEN!
This is a QUICK guide to making sex interesting again as
it is a quick guide it can not cover everything or be very
detailed. This is just a guide to sex not the reasons for
losing sex drive.
MAKE YOURSELF SEXY!
Buy sexy underwear the sexier the better. Buy a pair of small
panties. You may not like wearing those kind of things but
your partner will love it and turning your partner on is
what counts. Remember you only have to wear them when you
are going to be naughty not in everyday life!
This is one if the easiest ways of making things spicy and
yet a lot of people scoff at it!
Naughty tip: Shave your pubic hair off if you are trimmed
(Yes, I know it itches when it grows back but it'll only
take a few days). Let your pubic hair grow if you are shaved
a change might be just what he needs (A good time to do this
is period week)
SEXINESS BEFORE SEX!
Kisses and touches leading up to sex will make him want you.
Use the time you have with him during the day. Wear revealing
clothes but not so revealing that you can't have company.
A skirt with no panties is a huge turn on for a man. Whisper
in his ear I'm not wearing any panties See his reaction.
Be suggestive about what's coming later. Drop hints
that he's going to get something.
Flash him and show as much as possible. This may be embarrassing
at first but remember he has seen it all before.
Naughty tip: Most men work. Call him at work I want to fuck
you And hang up. If you both have mail then you can send him
a sexy mail, a picture of your pussy or breasts would make
him so horny he'll be running home for sex.
If none of this is possible try telling him before he goes
to work.
Going to bed at night and having sex is fine but building
the lust during the day will make sex intense.
LOCATION!
Try a different place to have sex. This doesn't just
mean going to a hotel! Although that is good, too. (More
about that later) Try a different place in your house like
the bathroom or the toilet.
Naughty tip: Have sex in an unsafe place e.g. the hallway
in your home with the door unlocked or the garden (Assuming
you have one)
HOTEL!
Many hotels will let you book in advance to use their rooms
for a few hours. The cheaper hotels are not so fussy about
renting a room out by the hour.
If you have kids arrange for them to be looked after for an
hour or two. Try this at lunch time pick a hotel near his workplace.
Quick sex and then rushing back to pick up the kids or go to
work can be a thrill.
Naughty tip: Call him and tell him to meet you somewhere
do not tell him that you are going to the hotel just take him!
IN BED
There is a lot to cover here so I'll break it up into sections.
Foreplay:
Foreplay is a lot more important for the woman than the man.
But men enjoy it too. Many women forget this and lay there
during foreplay this is why men rush to sex. They are not
getting any pleasure apart from penetration so its right
she's wet, sex time
Use your hands, mouth and breasts to turn him on. Men love
being touched, they touch themselves all the time.
Toys.
Use a vibrator to turn yourself on a man loves to watch a woman.
Use it on him, his testicles and penis are very sensitive
along with his anus (asshole) Not all men like this but you
can try and see his reaction.
Oral.
Use your tongue and lips to kiss his penis you don't
have to suck but using your mouth will get him ready for sex.
Don't wait to be asked this really does kill the moment,
unless you are in a Sub Dom relationship (more about this
later)
Don't just suck him use tongue and kisses, the testicles
and even anus all are very sensitive. If the idea of licking
or kissing his asshole puts you off try using a wet finger
to stimulate him.
Men love to orgasm in a woman's mouth or over their face.
It is just the way it is. If you have hang-ups about this then
you need to just relax or agree that youll let him do it at
some point. Never say NO compromise let him cum on your face
not in your mouth if you don't like it in your mouth!
Or in your mouth if you don't like it on your face.
Sex.
Get on top. Men love a woman to be in control. Move position
ask him for positions example doggy or on the side. Standing
up is a little difficult but it does make a change. Try not
to have just man on top it is boring to use the same position
every time.
Kinky sex.
Not going to get into S&M as this is different from being
kinky. Being kinky simply means doing something unusual.
Here is a list.
Anal use lots of lubrication and be careful of position
some positions are painful!
Bondage this is not S&M. S&M involves pain. Using ropes,
handcuffs or even a tie to tie up your partner or be tied up.
This is fun and a simple way to spice things up.
Camera take some pics either during foreplay or sex. You
do not have to keep the pictures if you have a digital camera
or a Polaroid you can delete later or destroy the pics. It's
just a bit of fun. If you do keep the pics your partner can
always masturbate over them when you are not available
for sex.
A video camera is a little more extreme but many people get
really turned on by themselves having sex on cam or watching
afterwards. Again another masturbation aid for either
yourself or your partner.
Daytime sex. Nothing more naughty then having sex during
the day!
Dom and Sub.
Dominant and sub-servant sex. This is where one person
controls the other person totally during sex. The sub does
WHATEVER the Dom wants. This can be quite extreme but if
rules are agreed upon can be really good fun. Remember that
the person as Dom will want what pleasures them and it is
the Sub's JOB to do as they are told. Usually the words
slave or master will be used. The Dom will address the Sub
as slave and the Slave the Dom as Master.
You can always switch. Meaning that you change roles for
different nights (this stops someone getting too extreme
as you can get revenge the next time!)
Public sex. Not everyone has done this but you don't
have to have sex in a public place where people can see. Sex
in your car at night in a car park can be a huge thrill. If you
really want to have sex in a public place then a park or garden
is ideal. Remember be safe!
Video and porn. Porn really does help get the ideas going
and masturbating over porn together is much better than
either of you sneaking around to satisfy yourself.
Conclusion.
There is so much you can do. But remember the ultimate thing
is to turn him on and keep him turned on. If you have a low sex
drive through whatever reason. Fake it pretend you are
interested and when sex starts you will become interested.
Keep him happy in bed and you'll keep him happy in your
relationship! We all do things we don't like it is apart
of any relationship but doing things he likes turns him
on. And in return you will get what you want. Be dirty, men
love dirty. Try not to be shy! If you are doing the same thing
all the time he will become bored and so will you!
Also try not to set the time or the day! Let it happen naturally.
Sex is the most important thing for a man if he doesn't
get satisfied he'll start to wonder why he is in the
relationship? This is not ideal for the woman and you as
the woman have to find ways to keep him interested!
One final point. TALK tell him what you want and ask him what
he wants. Read this guide and talk to him about it and the
ideas in here.
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