Why can't we just be honest with ourselves?
When will we learn that just because your partner says something
that it may not be the real feelings behind it. People are
so used to lieing to everyone and to themselves that they
cant even tell when they are doing it. In jops we have to
fluff things up or make excuses for things, in everyday
life we lie just by saying Oh I am good when some random
person asks you how you are. Because no one really wants
the answer to that question we just say it automatically.
Face it the cashier at the local market does not want to hear
about your rash somewhere unplesent. So why do we think
that it does not carry over in our relationships? Are we
all in such denial of reality that we dont want to see that
the one we think we love could be lieing to us all the time.
Or better yet that they dont even realize they are lieing
and they are in denial too. Honestly when was the last time
you stopped and thought about how many lies you tell in a
day is? Not just to other people but to yourself, because
that is the worse one of all. We all deny things to ourselves
because if we didnt that would be a lot more suicides. It
is hard to look at yourself honestly and say I am not that
attractive, or may not know everything. Or what about all
our little nasty habits that we hate in other people but
do ourselves. The only reason we hate those things about
other people is because it personifies the flaws in us.
But it takes a strong person to admit that they are flawed
and that they will never be perfect. Most people want to
think they are self actualized and are flawless and everyone
else around them are complete failures but if you can work
out the things in your own head then you can look at a potenshal
mate, and judge if they have done the same without pick flaws
that you yourself posess
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