is it really greener on the otherside?
My husbund and I have been married for several years and
have enjoyed touching and exploring each other to see what
excites us and turns each other on. Of course guys think
of sex 24 hrs a day. How can they help it, it is around them
teasing them all the time. Anyway, of couse his fantasy
is to have a threesome with another women. My question is,
isn't some things left to fantasy not to be acted upon?
By the movies and this site it makes it sound all great after.
It is logical to think that if someone is licking you and
touching you and having sex with you it is going to feel good.
What if you meet someone that makes you feel turned on more
than your spouse makes you feel? Some of you say it is just
sex and you are not in love with them. I bet none of you would
admit that a lover turned you on more than your spouse if
you know what the consequencious would be. Don't men
suggest swinging because they want your permission to
have sex with someone else because then they don't
feel it is cheating? How do you really feel after? Of course
it sounds fun and exciting when your playing. How do you
go back to the two of you without thinking how the other person
tuned you on. That isn't being loyal to your spouse?
If we get bogged down with our jobs, bills, kids, etc. of
course our fantasy life seems exciting! Once you cross
over there is no turning back. I have read that you need to
be secure in you relationship. It seems to me that when you
have experienced someone else when you get in a fight or
life gets stressed with your spouse who wants to deal with
the grind when having fun with someone else doesn't
involve the crumby stuff in life? My husband and I have talked
about this for a few years and I am not that comfotable. We
have been to a few swing clubs to see what they are like but
are not ready to participate, until I have thought about
the after effects. We enjoy sex with each other now and I
don't want acting out a fatasy to ruin it. Would like
to here your experiences and comments.
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