Going Crazy...Solvable Problem or Unending Yearning
I work at a small communications firm with about twenty
employees. One of the people I've been teamed with is an
extremely attractive, 35-year old brunette. She and I
have been working together for almost ten years. She's
smart, decisive, has a terrific personality and is just
plain fun to be with. Obviously, we are friends. Ever since
meeting her, I've found her attractive. Over the past year
or so, though, I've developed other feelings for her...to
the point now that my stomach literally does flip-flops
whenever we're together. In short, I've fallen hard for
her. Whenever I see her, all I want to do is hug her, kiss her,
snuggle with her and make long, slow, passionate love with
her. I doubt very seriously if she has any idea of my feelings
for her and I, of course, have absolutely no idea what she's
thinking. So far this is very much a one-way street.
Now, there are some serious complications. First, I'm
considerably older than she is...21 years to be exact (which
could make me the proverbial "dirty old man"). Second,
we're both married (I think we all know about the consequences
there). And third, this is a workplace scenario at a small
company (we've all heard stories about how ugly these situations
can get). Countering the complications are my emotions,
which basically say "Damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead."
Logically, though, I say to myself, "Don't be an idiot...look
at the trouble you can cause."
There you have it. So far I've done nothing other than occasionally
complimenting her on her attractiveness, to which she
has been genuinely flattered and appreciative. Bottom
line: Do I do nothing and continue yearning for her, while
keeping and enjoying our working relationship and friendship?
Or is there something I can do? If so, what? Nothing against
the guys out there, but I think this is a situation than can
be best addressed by the women. Advice appreciated.
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