An answer, not a question!
As I reviewed the articles in this catagory I noticed there
were lots of questions, a few related experiences but almost
no answers. So I have one! How to get your wife/girlfriend/signifigant
other to try.
Bring up the subject at appropriate times. Over a bowl of
Cheerios even an adventurous girl like myself is likely
to look at you like you've been smoking something.
Try a little dirty talk during foreplay. Put the idea in
there. She's turned on, provided you're not hiding
the other couple in a closet she's not likely to be offended.
Try getting some porn that highlights what you're
interested in.
Work this into your routine for a couple of weeks. Then,
one day, post coital (that means right after you've
had sex), bring the subject up again. Try kissing her as
you're talking about it. Make it clear you're
interested in it physically, that your needs are being
fulfulled, this is just a want.
When you're ready to start a plan of action on finding
a third or another couple make sure you make it clear to her
she has the power to veto anyone. The actual finding of suitable
partners is more difficult. Some are lucky enough to live
in a town with a nice swingers club, others are in cyber-hell
trying to weed out the real ones from the frauds.
Finally, some people, for personal reasons, are dead set
against this, try and be sensitive if she is one of these
people. There are usually heavy reasons why that's
true. Parents divorced because one cheated and the like.
Go back to step one. It may never work, but that's ok.
This is the woman you love and her feelings are important.
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