response to "Difficult Men"
So you're attached & you've got a guy @ work
who won't stop making passes (& I'm assuming
you want him to) despite the fact that you've said you're
married, pregnant, etc. So the guy is either just flirting
w/ you -- (don't take it so seriously)-- or he doesn't
care one whit about your boundaries, or he's just dimwitted.
If the latter, you need to be much more clear; don't
expect people to respect your boundaries just because
you've suggested them.
First, make the boundary clearer: I'm attached and
don't kiss/play with other men. (Sometimes you really
have to spell it out). Even then, that's just another
boundary statement, so:
Second, SAY "NO!" "BACK OFF!" "Your
advances aren't appreciated nor welcome."
If necessary/possible, say this loudly and w/ witnesses.
Third, if he comes at you again, DO NOT BACK UP! Tell him to
back up! Stand your ground and keep your power!
Good luck!
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